Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Mothers rights in Islam

Ok..so here I am, looking through my facebook events..and I come across an event called "Bring my children back". It was an event to bring back a well known Muslim mother's 3 beautiful daughters, who were taken by their father to Algeria without their mother knowing anything as they have been separated for 6 months.

These stories make me so upset. Islam isn't an oppressive religion to women (mothers,daughters etc). A mother has a right over her children and it is clearly written in a Hadith narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him): “A man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said:
‘O Messenger of Allah, who among the people is most deserving of my good companionship?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then whom?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then whom?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then whom?’ He said, ‘Then your father.’” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4/13, and Muslim, 2548).

So what makes this supposedly practicing Muslim father think he has the right to take his children away from the most important person in a child's life, their mother! There is a big misunderstanding out there that whatever a man says goes. Islam has given rights to both genders. And no one is more supreme than the other. Everyone is equal and is judged by their piety. As most people know, "Paradise lies under the feet of the mother". Is this man trying to take away Paradise from his children? A mother has gone through all the pain of carrying the child for 9 months and long labour and it doesnt end there. Why are there still people out there who think that Islam is just about 1 gender? How dare he feels that he has the power to take away the children! Does he think that he is more supreme than Allah ?(Astaghfirallah!). Or maybe he thinks that those Hadiths and Quranic verses don't apply to him.
Imagine what those children feel, hundreds and thousands of miles away from their mother, the one who raised them. I can't even begin to imagine what life would be without my mother! The most important role model in my life! Imagine how the mother would feel, it would be like a part of her is missing! She was the one that fed her children, bathe them, clothed them, read to them and taught them things they didn't know, she is closely bonded to her child!
Well I can't judge, but I will make Dua that 1 day InshAllah Allah will make this man understand!

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*~Ange~* said...


how are you? Didnt know you had a blog...

hijabee said...

Really sad for the mother and not islamic at all!

non-muslim modest woman said...

Sad story, specially because I was pretty close to be a witness of similar case. I was horrified when I found out my exhusband had a plan to take his son from his previous marriage to his mother and sisters. Thank God his mother is a great woman and she said NO. But what can you expect from a muslim man who drinks and gambles. I wish you muslimah energy and strength to fight with this kind of misunderstandigs of men.